Donald Trump has a lot of Charisma. What!
Whether you love him or abhor him Trump has charisma, otherwise, why would anyone follow him?
The first one is emotional expressiveness
These are all things we can work on. Depending on your personal circumstance we can all vary either our voice, facial expressions and gestures or all three. For example, we can modulate our voice, we can smile and tilt our head quizzically as a gesture.
The second one is empathic concern
Donald describes empathic concern as “the ability to read others’ emotions, feelings, and attitudes, and the ability to demonstrate that you are sympathetic.”
This is a bit trickier, as some people would rather die a thousand cuts than work a room. I don’t mind working a room, but unfortunately, I don’t get any further than the first person I meet, much to their displeasure. What you might like to do here is to pick your battle. Pick the event that you are going to make an all-out assault on, take a buddy and go for it. Make it a game and see how many people you can meet. Make it fun, not a nightmare.
Lastly verbal elements
Here charismatic people “speak in “picturesque” language, make good use of metaphors, use vivid storytelling to convey images and meaning”
We can do this as well. If we know there is an event coming up, do some homework and prepare a
- short anecdote about something that happened to you recently and practice it so it comes out the way you want.
- Find a metaphor. Humorously refer to your partner as a couch potato” or quote an artist like Bob Dylan describing your life by saying “Chaos is a friend of mine”
- Memorise a vivid short story. You’ll need a new one each time though.
Thanks to Donald Riggio we have four tactics to make us more charismatic and some ideas from me.